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- TABLE OF CONTENTS
CHAPTER 1:Introduction To Body Language
CHAPTER 2: Basic Body Language
CHAPTER 3:An In Depth Look At The Language Of Your Eyes
CHAPTER 4:The Head
CHAPTER 5:Nervous Ticks And The Mouth
CHAPTER 6:Arm Positioning In Regards To Body Language
CHAPTER 7: The Hands And What They Can Tell You About
Everyone
CHAPTER 8:Fingers and The Signals They Can Create
CHAPTER 9: Legs And Different Body Language Signals You
Can Pick Up On
Chapter 10: Final Thoughts
- Chapter 1: Introduction To Body Language
Body language makes up 65% or 75% of all communication during a
typical day. You may realize your conscious brain is listening in
what people are saying, but you are most likely unaware of the body
language messages you are receiving from your subconscious mind.
The goal of this book is to make sure you are aware of both the body
language around you and your own body language. Being able to
read and understand body language is a skill that will benefit you in
all aspects of your life. Understanding how body language works
will allow you to communicate more effectively with other
individuals and strengthen your relationships. You can also take the
skills you learn from this book and apply them to your own body
language. Learn simple techniques that will allow you to appear
more confident and allow you to build more relationships. Reading
body language is a skill that very few people possess, and this book
will allow you to become a body language reading expert.
The Benefits Of Reading Body Language
The benefits of reading body language are endless, and yet many
people never take the time to learn how to properly read body
language. Once you understand body language, you will be able to
become a human lie detector. Almost everybody in life lies, whether
it's a small lie or a big lie, their body language will give them away.
Find out immediately who is lying in your life, whether its personal
relationships or business relationship. Body language can also
telegraph attraction and whether or not somebody is interested in
you. Having the ability to ask out or date only people you know are
attracted to you, will save you time and energy in your dating life.
Never be embarrassed by asking out someone who isn’t interested
- again. Improve your business life by using body language as a
powerful weapon. Understand how your coworkers and boss view
you in the workplace. Learn how to read clients and customers, and
understand exactly how they are feeling during your sales pitch. An
understanding of body language will also allow you to become a
skilled presenter. Read the body language of your audience and
adjust your presentation accordingly. Use body language in job
interviews, and understand exactly what your interviewer thinks of
you. Never have another boring presentation, instead capture and
captivate your audience by understanding what they want to hear.
The benefits of reading body language go on and on. Reading body
language is a life skill and this book will allow you to benefit from
reading body language throughout your entire life.
- Understanding Your Body Language
While its important to be able to understand and read other people's
body language, it can be just as important to understand your own
body language. Most people are unaware with the way they carry
themselves, which can make them seem cold or unapproachable.
Body language plays a huge part in your overall perception from
other people. People may perceive you as weak or lacking
confidence just by your overall body language. Have you ever met
somebody and immediately didn’t like them, even before they said a
word? Or how about the reverse. You meet somebody and
immediately liked them and wanted to get to know them better?
Chances are that body language played a huge part in your initial
assessment of that person. Your body language could be hurting your
dating life as well. Both men and women will judge one another in
the first 5 seconds of meeting. If you have weak or poor body
language, you could be disqualifying yourself from potential suitors.
Your body language in the work place is also extremely important. If
you are manager or in a leadership position, and your body language
doesn't match what you are saying, your employees will
subconsciously be confused. You will have a hard time motivating
your employees and improving production. A leader who has a
strong body language presence, will exude strength and your
employees will be more motivated to follow. These techniques can
also be used when raising children. Children are looking for
protection and support from their parents when they are young.
Strong body language will make the children feel protected and
understand that you are the authority figure. Children can pick up on
body language very easily, and a lack of strong body language may
cause them to test your boundaries. The best thing about body
- language, is once you understand the correct body language to have,
you can fix your problems immediately. It will take some time for
you to change, because you might have had bad body language your
whole life. But we can offer you some quick and easy fixes which
will allow you to see immediate results in all aspects of your life.
- Body Language Reading Is A Skill
We are going to equip you with everything you need to read other
people's body language and to fix your own body language. What you
need to understand, is that reading body language is a skill that needs
to be practiced and honed. Please don't assume that once you read
this book, you are going to be able to read and understand everybody
immediately. You need to put in hours of practice both on your own
body language and other people's body language. You will find that
understanding and picking up on the clues we are going to teach you,
will open up a whole new world in your life. You will find yourself
having a subconscious dialogue in your head when watching body
language. That person just crossed their arms, they might not be
interested, better change the subject. This person won't look me in
the eye, I wonder if they are lying? This person's facial reactions are
not matching what they are telling me. Something might be
suspicious. These are all dialogues that you will find you will be
telling yourself when you are watching body language. Human
interaction is usually similar between different people and you will
see patterns begin to emerge. Once you can spot these patterns
quickly, you will take your body language reading skill to the next
level. But once again, becoming a body language reading expert is
something that needs time and cannot be achieved over night.
- Chapter 2: Basic Body Language
Before we move into the more in-depth body language analysis, we
are first going to go over the basics of body language. At first you
may be overwhelmed when trying analyze body language, as a
simple tick or tell can last only a brief second. This will lead to
false signals and information, which could allow you to jump to the
wrong conclusions. When first starting out, you should be focusing
on the big picture. Focus on the person's overall body language and
demeanor. As you become more seasoned, and can pick up the
smaller tells, that is when you know you are getting good at reading
body language. But for now, just try to look at the big picture, and
remind yourself that you are just beginning and not to jump to any
conclusions about that specific person.
Disclaimer Before We Begin
When first developing your ability to read body language, it is
important that you keep in mind that your skills are still undeveloped.
It may take months or years to come to a firm grasp of body language
and really be able to read people. The skills we are going to teach
you are designed to allow you to read people immediately and learn
the basics of body language. There are numerous false positives with
these techniques, so you need to look for confirmation signals. If you
spot one or two these signals, the proper technique is to look for
other signals to confirm your suspicion. Never call out or accuse
somebody, because you read one or two of these signals. Also have
multiple interactions and use body language to find out true motives.
But if you are going to accuse someone, always have hard facts or
evidence, as even the most reliable body language readers can come
up with false positives.
- What To Watch When Reading Someone's Body Language
There are a few different body parts and areas you should be
watching when reading somebody's body language. The first thing
you should notice, is how the person positions their body. How is
their posture? Are they standing straight with their chest out? Are
they covering their chest? How much space are they taking up with
their body? These are all bigger picture questions that will allow
you to read the confidence of that individual. Standing up straight
with their chest out, is a common trait of a confident individual who
usually is a leader figure. Slouched posture with hands covering
their heart, usually cross armed, will generally mean this individual
is shy or less confident. We will go into greater detail later in the
book on how you can utilize each of these body language tells.
Watch The Eyes
You are also going to be watching the eyes, when reading body
language. The eyes can alert you to liars and people who are hiding
things from you. By understanding where the eyes look when people
are recalling information, you can understand whether they are
making something up or they are actually recalling information that
actually happened. If your subjects eyes move up and to the left, they
are recalling something that they made up in their head. Up and to the
right, they are recalling information that is stored in their brain. Liars
and people who are experiencing stress, are also know to have poor
eye contact and generally will look around the room. They will also
blink more and have certain facial ticks. So always remember to
watch the eyes when you are evaluating body language.
- Facial Expressions
The face has many different muscles and reacts and contracts in many
different ways when we are communicating. It is extremely difficult
to control your facial reactions during conversation, which is one of
the reasons that facial expressions are an easy way to spot
somebody’s true intentions. Listening to what a person is saying, and
watching their facial expressions at the same time, is the way you
find out if what the person is telling is true. Usually people who are
lying, will say something but their facial expressions will not match
up. You can see this phenomenon usually in a court room setting. A
murderer will be talking about how they are sorry for killing
someone, but their facial expression will be one of self pleasure
instead of guilt. So always watch for different facial expressions,
and see if they are congruent with what the person is actually saying.
How We Touch Ourselves And Different Objects
Nervous ticks are another part of body language that you need to
become aware of. Nervous people will usually have some sort of
tick which you can use to figure just how they are feeling. For
example, moving your leg up and down is a sign of nervousness or
anticipation. Cracking knuckles is a subliminal comfort technique
designed to try to relax the body. You also need to take into account
how people touch themselves when talking to you. When someone
continues to rub their nose, they are usually holding back something
they want to say. A simple tug on the ear could mean that they are
uncomfortable with their situation. Supporting their head in their
hand, usually signals boredom or they are tired. So if you see
someone doing this in a meeting or presentation, it might be time to
make things more interesting. A few strokes of the chin could mean
- they are interested and respect your thoughtfulness. They might begin
pondering the idea themselves. This is a great tell if you are a
salesmen, as you now know that the client is beginning to buy your
pitch.
- Look At How They Position Their Body Distance Wise
The distance that people put between you and themselves is also
something that you should keep in mind when looking at body
language. Distance represents the personal space that a person
requires and can actually tell you a lot about that person's
personality. If you want to know the relationship between two
people, for example if they are dating or have slept together, just
look at the personal space they share. If they are within one foot of
each other, most likely they have a deeper personal relationship. The
average personal space for different individuals is around 4 feet for
people who have never met before. If you find that somebody is
closer then four feet, this person may feel comfortable with you, or
they may even be attracted to you. Further than four feet, this person
may feel uncomfortable around new people or uncomfortable around
you. Also be aware of how you are interacting with that person's
comfort zone. Some people may not appreciate it if you are
encroaching on their personal space.
Body Language Basics That You Can Apply
There are also some body language basics that you need to be aware
of in your own life. Your posture is the biggest correction that you
need to start making yourself aware of. How you stand and move
around life, can say a lot about your confidence. Make sure you stand
up straight with your shoulders back. Stick your chest and try to take
up as much space as possible when walking around. Move in a slow
manner and try to avoid fast movements. Always be aware of what
you are doing with your hands. Try not to cross your arms or hold
your hand over your chest. You will see the difference between
confident people and those who lack confidence in a club setting.
- Those with lower confidence, will hold their drinks over their chest.
Having your chest exposed, is also an indication that you are willing
to interact with other people. People will be more receptive to this
type of body language, and will be more willing to come up to you
and start a conversation. So always make sure you are watching your
own body language as well as watching others.
- Chapter 3: An In Depth Look At The Language Of Your Eyes
The eyes have been commonly referred to as the gateway to a
persons soul. Eye contact is extremely important to build a sense of
trust and intimacy. Unfortunately, many people have trouble looking
someone directly in the eye. Direct eye contact could mean that
somebody is challenging you, or it could mean that they have your
full attention. Eye contact is especially important when you are
presenting, as eye contact will allow the audience to feel engaged
and part of the presentation. Your eyes are also very important in
communication and you find that you have little control over your eye
muscles when you are speaking. This allows body language experts
to read your eyes and figure what exactly is your motive.
The Direction Of The Eyes And What They Mean
The easiest body language tell to pick up on with regards to eyes, is
what direction they move and look to when the subject is talking.
This relates to the right and left side of the brain, each responsible
for a different task. The left side of the brain is mostly analytical and
used for recalling memories and math skills. The right side of our
brain is creative and used in story telling and fictional writing. So
how can use this information when it comes to body language? If
your subject is looking right when you are asking them to recall a
fact, they might be making up a story. You have to be attentive,
because it can be quick depending on how rehearsed the lie is for the
subject. Children for example, can spend minutes looking up and to
the right when fabricating a story. If the person you are reading looks
to the left, they are likely using the left side of the brain, which will
allow them to recall facts that actually happened.
- You also need to keep an eye on the horizontal location of the
person's eyes to pick up on more tells. If you are looking for a liar,
then up and to the right is going to be the position you should watch.
Eyes that move upwards, are recreating a visual event, which is most
likely the situation you are asking about. If their eyes move to the
right and sideways, this means that they are imagining a sound. This
might be a false positive when it comes to somebody lying, so make
sure you ask again. Down and to the right indicates, is a signal that
the person is being creative. But down and to the right usually
doesn’t mean the person is lying. Down and to the right, usually, will
mean the person is questioning their feelings, and is trying to
creatively figure out where they stand. This could mean the person is
hiding something, but you are going to need other body language
signals to confirm.
- Direct Eye Contact and How It Relates To Body Language
Eye contact is a great way to make sure you have the attention of the
audience you are speaking to, and also a great way to find out if
somebody is attracted to you. If you are giving a presentation, you
can usually find out who is interested by looking at their eyes. If their
eyes are wandering around the room or they are looking down at the
floor or desk, you need to energize your speech and find a new way
to get their attention. Eye contact is also extremely important if you
are in the sales field. If you are receiving direct eye contact when
you are giving your pitch, this means the customer is very interested
and you should go for the close. If your client or customer is looking
away, you need to change your pitch and find another pitch that
relates to him more. Be aware of eye contact when people are
talking directly to you. It's common knowledge that liars will avoid
direct eye contact, so we have seen numerous cases where liars will
look you directly in the eye. So always be aware that just because
somebody looks you directly in the eye when speaking, they still may
be hiding something.
How The Eyes Will Give Away Attraction
The eyes are one of the easiest signals of body language to interpret
if you are looking for the signs of attraction. These signals are
common in both males and females, but are usually more pronounced
in the female population. The first signal that we are going to talk
about is pupil dilation. If you are close enough to watch your
subject's pupils, you can find out a lot about how they feel about you.
Pupil dilation is known to occur during attraction when the brain
begins to release different hormones. If you notice your date's pupils
begin to dilate during a date, that could be a sign of growing
- attraction. You also want to take into account the lightening in the
setting that you are in. If the lights dim and your date's pupils expand,
they are just adjusting to the new lighting.
The second attraction tell, is widening of the eyes. Eyes usually will
widen, and your eyebrows will raise, when you are confronted with
a positive situation. Widening eyes can be seen from people who are
greeting family member or friends, or looking at cute animals.
Widening eyes means that person desires what every object they are
looking at. So look out for widening eyes when you first meet
somebody, as it could be a tell on if they find you attractive or not.
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