The Weakness Of Strength Scott Johnson

The Weakness Of Strength Scott Johnson Copyright 2012 by Scott Johnson Smashwords Edition Table Of Contents Chapter 1 Chapter 2 Bullies... Chapter 1 Many sins that humankind commit truly make me sick to my scar covered stomach. One of those sins is abuse of power. From the schoolyard to the Police force to the Government... I despise seeing the strong prey on the weak. What really lies behind the mask of a bully is fear. Fear that they are the ones who will appear weak. So due to their own insecurities they feel it gives them a license to be a complete D*** or B****... I believe bullies are created and not born. This comes back to the parent or another older influence, IMO... In the case of a bully, it is usually the father or some other dominant male figure that is involved with the child early in life... Your mother, sister, Aunt, grandma, wife, girlfriend or another female can also bully you... There are plenty of female bullies as well. Nevertheless, in most cases, this comes from men. Reflections of our environment. This dominant figure talks roughly to the child, he makes him do things for him or give him things and if the child is reluctant then the dominant male threatens the child with physicality or he actually uses physicality. Verbal abuse also plays a large role. This is the same mentality behind a mean dog. If you hit the dog, abuse it, and keep it isolated from love, do not be shocked when it turns on you or attacks someone else. It is only doing what it was taught. It is reflecting the coldness of its environment. When the person does this on a consistent basis to an impressionable youth, the youth will reflect one of three personalities, IMO. #1. The child becomes the fearful type. Always afraid and never stands up for themselves. This goes on in their life until the boiling point is reached and they absolutely explode or implode. In either case, it is the extreme; there is no middle ground. They either implode and kill themselves or they explode and kill others. Both of these extremes have the bully to blame at the root... The bully did not physically make the bullied pull the trigger on themselves or others; but they were directly responsible for what led to it. I have a line in a song that says “Sometimes the killer aint always the shooter”. If someone kills him or herself or shoots up a school or place of employment because of relentless teasing or bullying, then the bullies are also guilty. #2. The child eventually stands up for itself and the bullies back off. The child knows what was being done to them was wrong and they stopped it, but they did not join the dark side. They will not allow themselves to be bullied and they do not bully others. They usually find themselves standing up to bullies for other people due to the fact they have a hate for the injustice and they feel it is a duty to intervene. #3.The child becomes a bully. The mirror image of whoever made them that way. The cycle continues. This personality type is made over and over and over is not always intentional though... A lot of bullying falls into the “Making them tough” Many people do not even realize that they are making because they feel they are just making the kids more life. again. This category... “bullies” rugged for If you want to teach them how to throw down for protection, then train them. Doing it with random punches and name-calling is not just making them tough; you are making a future A-Hole and creating resentment within the person you are doing it to. The behavior you are teaching is learned, so who did you like that? You are turning them into what you think you are training them to handle... You are making them the same type of person you are making them tough enough to go against... You are also screwing the child`s social life up; they will not have any true friends or good honest loving relationships. There is a huge difference between having true friends and friends who hang out with you because they are scared of you. They will end up having a bunch of “Yes men” as “friends” and if they treat their girl as they do others, she will end up hating him as well. WHY? Because bullies are A-holes. Nobody really likes or likes to hang out with A-holes... If you do, then you are an A-hole also or you are a “brownnoser” and need to reconsider your position in life. So am I against toughness? Not in the least. I am not weak and I am not telling anyone else to be. I am able to view things differently now. I have learned to look beyond the present and see how we are affected in the future by where we come from or where we are. I understand that mental toughness is what will ultimately get you through life. My uncle would always tell me that some people have strong backs and weak minds. I understand that now. If your goal is to make the child tough or stronger physically, there is nothing wrong with that. Men need to be strong, we need to be able to do hard work and handle the evils of life. Put them on weight training, get them out in the yard to work, Play sports... HOWEVER, DO NOT NEGLECT THE MENTAL TOUGHNESS! You must also train You do not see many your mind as hard as people who have both your body. attributes. You got either a real strong person who is not that smart or a real smart person who is not that strong. So if you are trying to make somebody tough, go for it! However, realize there are different ways to make someone physically tougher other than punching them in the arm and telling them to get you a beer and quit acting like a lil b**** ... Or “fag” or lil girl. Give them a toughness that will equal integrity, strength honesty and intelligence. Train them across the board, so they are mentally and physically able to handle life and handle it with Respect. If you were not raised like this, be a Rebel, break tradition. There is much more to being a man than the ability to kick someone`s ass. Although that does come in handy when those skills are needed. When NEEDED. Now allow me to address any bullies that may be reading this right now. What you are doing is wrong and it will come back on you eventually. There is ALWAYS someone tougher out there and one day you will meet that someone. As I said in the beginning, Life has a way of exposing you. What you do to and how you treat others will either reward you or haunt you in your lifetime. One day when I was in high school, I came up the stairs and was blocked by a large group of people in the hall. In the middle was my friend and he was in the face of a “Nerd”... I remember the nerdy dude was looking real embarrassed and scared with his head down. Then my friend backhanded him in the face. The crowd was like “Ohhhhhhhhhh”. Some started laughing, others shaking their heads in disgust. The crowd broke up and I went up to my friend and asked him why he did that. The dude was soft. I could not grasp why he was screwing with him. He did not even have a good answer to give me. He offered some predictable “He`s a b****” line or something... My friend walked around with his chest puffed out like he was Kong. He had a rep for being a “bad ass” gangsta ... And I catch him in the hall pimp slapping a tall, skinny, nerdy guy. I lost a ton of respect for him that day. There was no sense in it... He ended up looking like a punk to me because he abused his strength over someone who was weaker. Now the person who was hit in front of everybody has to deal with classmates teasing him, feeling like a loser in front of the girls and his self-esteem is also negatively affected. Now his playground There was no sense begin with... becomes for him full because to have been of this fool. put in that situation to Chapter 2 When you people do B.S. like this to look tough or to strike fear, you are really just exposing your own weakness. You are really making yourself look like a B****... Like a coward. Am I wrong? You rarely see a bully walk up to someone bigger or stronger than himself or herself and try that nonsense. Because the bigger and stronger could whoop your ass, so you choose to mess with the smaller and weaker to give yourself an inflated ego and aura of toughness... You are really just showing the real, who and what you are. You expose yourself... Especially, when beating up the gay dudes. In many ways, that is the same as beating up a chick. There is no honor or sense in that at all. Some of you bully the handicapped or “Retarded” kid... You must be a real low life to pick on someone dealing with those issues. In some cases, you are one head injury away from that yourself... No matter the size of the animal, you back it into a corner; it will fight you to the death... Every time you pick on someone weaker or you keep up with the name calling or harassment , You are pushing that person into that corner and once they get there , after all of the abuse that has been piled up on them , You better be ready for the fight of your life when they decide to fight back... Many of these kids are smarter than you; they just do not have the physical means or A-hole nature to match up. This is why they use their intelligence and plan elaborate schemes to kill everyone that has wronged them. You are leading people down this path by your actions, WAKE UP! In addition, if the people kill themselves, you will deal with that to. Do not think you will not, you will not escape the haunting until you make it right. They will eventually pay you back ... One way or another. There is no reason to run around acting like a D***. There is no point in it. ... - tailieumienphi.vn